Hey gays, this is a mildly egotistical post but I’m really proud of myself and wanted to share it.

I just came back from a New Year’s party and met this very cute guy who was dancing with me and giving me fuck-me eyes. At the party we exchanged instagram handles.

After the party, we shared a cab to our same neighborhood and he said that we should go up to his room together.

I made a promise to myself that in 2023 I would slow down and go for emotional connection over physical, at least on the onset.

I told him, let’s get coffee in the morning and go from there. He said, “are you sure?” And he took my hands and guided them to his throbbing boner which was very visible in his khakis. While I would normally think this is hot and give in, I gave him a kiss on the cheek and said: “tomorrow, coffee” winked and said goodbye.

Sorry for the blue balls, Carlos, but hope your heart is as big as your boner was in the car. See you mañana!

………….. EDIT 1/1/23 (Morning) …………..

Morning y’all. Hope you guys got everything you wanted on New Year’s Eve and day.

In terms of setting boundaries, I failed to mention that yes, I was clear when I said “I’m not sleeping with you tonight.” I also said multiple times “I. Just. Want. To. DANCE 🕺🏼” … Though I could see it being a mixed message with us grinding to reggaeton and sensual bachata dancing.

Coffee date is being set up as we speak, though no response yet. Maybe he found someone else? Bright stars die fast kinda vibes? Who knows. TBD. In general, I’m still 100% proud of my decision and my heart feels light. Great feeling.

…………. EDIT 1/1/23 (Evening) ………….

He responded but seems like either post-nut clarity set in, the magic is gone, and/or vibes are just off. In the afternoon light, outside of the party atmosphere, I don’t really think we could get along. Nixing the coffee date. That being said, I’m still glad I took it slow and stayed true to myself, regardless of the outcome.

So, to the rest of the community: 🥂 here’s to the rest of January and the rest of 2023 for connections, however YOU want to have them. If you want to ho around, more power to you. If you want to make more emotional connections, cheers! If you want more platonic friends, amen brother. And if you want to be alone, hats off to you too. Good luck in 2023!

…………. FINAL EDIT 2/13/23 ………….

Took a look at my analytics randomly and saw that my post got crossposted to /r/gaybroscirclejerk and was critiqued pretty harshly. Y'all are allowed your opinion but damn, vicious. I wrote, "If you want to ho around, more power to you." which I was hoping would be taken in a light-hearted, positive way, but I guess some people just can't get enough dick to fill their empty hearts. </3

Just a friendly reminder as said by /u/majeric : It's setting boundaries. You don't owe anyone sex.

Also, update, so far this year, I've been on a handful of meaningful dates that have lead to nothing sexual as well as a handful of them that have lead to sex. They've all been lovely.