The sex isn't nasty, just bland. I want to change things up — I don't know what. I have been looking at my past sexual encounters, and they have just been so dreadful. This experience is all on me., not on my sexual partners. Two months ago, I saw a guy I used to fuck on an app, and he no longer wanted to fuck me. Seeing his profile reminded me of the great sex I used to have. I'm stuck in a sexual rut.

My current mood is - Hurry Up and finish! The sex is no longer fun, and the function turns me off. I am one of those people that like to plan out my sexual encounters. I want the right lights, music, and a nice jockstrap to match my long sock. As a feminine gay man, I do make-up and lingerie, a whole process. Not to mention the stuff you do as a bottom.

The men I meet could give a fuck because many fail to wash their dick before coming over. I make it very clear I'm not into musk, yet guys still show up with the foul odor. Maybe the issue is my sexual desires changed as I got older.

What do you do to spice up lackluster sex?