I'm a 22 year old college senior. Thought I'd finally met a guy to potentially date recently, but I've noticed that the only time the dude texts me back or interacts with me over social media (we're on winter break, in different areas of the state so can't be in person), is when I initiate contact. I text first and they'll respond. Or I'll comment on a social media posts and they'll text me saying how they're "sorry for forgetting to respond" to me.

Also, I came back to campus (they're also living near campus for the break) to see some friends before they move away bc they graduated (socially distanced). I texted the guy and told them that I'd love to hangout bc I want to see them. They said yay and okay bc they wanted to hang out too. But...they've not really texted me my entire time back unless I texted first. And I could reach out to make plans to meet but, back during the semester, every (literally every) time we met up, it was bc I set up the hangout. So I'm just taking this as they either are extremely absent minded and don't think of me much to text back, or just don't want to hang out. Which is fine, I'd rather they just say that.

I've said all that to say...how do I stay hopeful that one day I'll meet a guy who actively wants to hang out with me and initiates contact with me? Like even before I came back to campus, while I was at home, I was the main one carrying conversation and asking get to know you questions. I don't get much attention from guys so it's getting harder and harder to stay hopeful. Any tips on being hopeful and not giving up?