I have been trying to lose weight for the past few months. I've lost about 40 pounds and recently was able to fit into size 38 pants. Even so, I still have a really engorged belly and I feel really unattractive. I am on all the apps, but as of today no one has been interested in me. I'm starting to feel that the only way I will ever be noticed by the gay community in my area is to work to get abs that I can showcase on my app profiles. I'm seriously considering committing to some extreme clean eating and cutting regimes so I can have abs by this coming summer. So to the gay men out there that actually have the coveted abdominals on their stomach, are they worth it or is having abs not all that it is cut out to be?