I’ve had a lot of sexual convos with guys I met on Reddit (You could say I’m a bit sexually promiscuous in that way). Eventually though most of these convos will lead to the other guy asking me to send them nude pics of me. While I admittedly do have nude pics/dick pics of myself on my phone, I’m always hesitant to send these pics, mainly because:

1. I often don’t know the other guy I’m talking to on a personal level.

2. Fears of my pics being used to potentially blackmail me.

3. Fears of my pics being posted to other subreddits without my consent.

4. Fears of someone potentially identifying me irl through my pics (I’m in the closet for context).

5. Concerns that my pics could potentially negatively impact future career opportunities, my ability to find work, and family/friend relationships if they were to ever be leaked. Once something is on the internet, it’s on the internet forever.

At the same time though, a part of me really DOES want to send my pics, because, one, often times I feel like I’m being selfish for not sending my pics after the other guy sends me theirs, and two, I think I’m pretty sexually attractive (Not to toot my own horn) and the thought of another guy being aroused by my pics/body turns me on. Most people in my personal life think I’m quite good looking too, so it’s not an issue of me being insecure in how I look.

So I’m wondering if anyone has been in the same boat as me and has any advice to give. What can I do to protect myself when sharing private pics of my body online and overcome that reluctance to share my pics? Or is the best way of protecting myself to just not share any of my photos at all? I’m incredibly torn.