Hey gays! Kinda of a long story but here it goes.

I have been friends with my friend for almost 10 years. I’m a black American and he is Muslim Syrian/Egyptian. We met and rushed the same fraternity back in spring of 2015 at our local college after becoming brothers and that same summer, he and I spent all summer together. he smoked me out for the first time and the summer ended with us going to a music festival and by then I was completely in love with him. By end of year, I had come out to all of my fraternity brothers, and he had told me that he had known prior. during our time in the fraternity all of our brothers were chasing after women and trying to hook up at the parties and my friend never seem to want to do that. He and I would get high often and sit somewhere and talk about music and abstract ideas. flashForward he had mentioned that he had been questioning his sexuality and when I asked him about it, and if he had done anything with any Body or guys, he said no, I gave him space and never yet pushed him to do anything or consume porn or hook up with anybody as I understand that that was his own journey. when I would ask him again about it several months later, he would say that he was straight forward again, we had graduated college and he had moved up north to San Francisco. He and I would see each other several times I visited him and we actually went to a gay bar once where we dance together platonically. Flash forward to 2021 he then calls me and tells me that he was questioning his sexuality again, and when I asked him if he had watched any porn, he said yes. when I asked him if he enjoyed it, he was unsure and couldn’t give me a straight answer and then I encouraged him the second time that he was in one of the most progressive and gayest cities in the state so he should experiment. Again, several months later when he was back in our hometown, I asked him about if he had experienced anything and to which he responded that no he was straight to give further context. He has never been in an adult relationship with anybody, male or female. so over the course of more years, he tells me how he hooked up with women and had flings on and off. Last year in December leading up to the new year he was in town and he was complaining about how he felt like he wasn’t close to his friend groups, and that he wanted to be able to cuddle with his friends that were men and that he had cuddled with gay men before and that he felt like he was still straight. That’s a night he and I walked and talked for hours and when I went to hug him, he hugged me really tight for a long time that was normal, and when I looked at him in the eyes, it almost looked like he wanted to kiss me. Flash forward to this year he and I went to a concert in San Francisco, where we shared a hotel room, and I cuddled with him and literally was laying on his bare chest playing with his chest hair. When I asked about one of his gay friends, and if he was single, he then proceeded to tell me that that same guy had playfully kissed him on the cheek, and it felt as though he was trying to make me jealous. Most recently I saw him and he was talking a big game about how he was going to go to LA for a month to visit his uncle and how he had all these girls that he was going to sleep with and then asked if I had anyone I was seeing, I told him about a fling I had in the Bay Area who I was meeting up with for the weekend. He then asked me multiple questions about who he was. I told him he was this hot hairy Latino guy with a big uncut dick with a thick vein going down the shaft. He then was like asking what do I like about uncut guys and I felt like he again was almost jealous. I also followed up with him a month later after he left to LA and he told me the girls he was talking too all yielded 0 results. I am not sure if I should wait till he comes out or if I should make a move. Every time I ask him he says he straight but then his actions are always questionable. At 28 I know it’s pathetic to be obsessed with a straight or possible dl man but I do love him and we started off as friends to be fair.