I'm usually attracted to women, but when I feel gay I really just want to make out with a fat twice-my-age balding hairy unkempt creep. Not like someone who would violate my consent, but someone who can get weird and pervy and just sexually aggressive when I let him know I'm consenting to that. I'm husky and hairy too btw, which I think makes it harder because twinks are popular rn I think, and I wouldn't pass for like crossdressing/sissy stuff. The other thing is, I just want to be super physical like massaging each other, frotting, getting groped and sniffed and smothered, and making out, etc, but I don't want to do anal sex and probably not oral sex. I wouldn't be able to host neither. I've never done this kind of thing before like a "hook up" thing.

I want to be able to set up something safe and consistent before I'm in NYC in September. Plus, have a little "date" where I can feel out how safe I'd feel with this person. Does grindr have something where you can match from far away for free? Because other than that I've only found reddit, and honestly, the guys are too "hot" for me. They're old but not old enough. I might have to resort to 4chan at this rate 😬