Edit: to sum it up someone with the name voxel in the comment section said it best and I am no longer looking for validation from terfs or anyone for that matter I will find a queer man who loves me for me and my penis

I Ftm 20 am in the process for Meta then phallo I’ve come across a few posts on r/ ask gay bros…they’re transphobic af anyways a lot of cis gay guys there are super Ignorant and say we are women and say they would never have sex with a post op trans man saying it doesnt look real enough or it wouldn’t feel like a real one… from what ive read it feels indistinguishable from a natal penis when penetrated and tbh most images when you look up phallo are of stage 1 without glans sure not real looking ofc but these guys simply dont understand its a process and its not finished yet I plan on getting medical tattooing to achieve the most realistic look i can aside from not being able to produce semen its pretty much like a natal penis im already critical enough about my own results and picking the right surgeon i just hope my forever man doesn’t leave or cheat on me with a cis guy

In addition: the transphobic part isnt not wanting to get with a trans man pre bottom surgery the transphobic parts are calling anyones genitals disgusting, calling trans men women, putting down cis gay men who get with trans men regardless of what surgeries they have had if any at all and invalidating their sexual orientation, and saying our surgeries are bad when not even doing full research