I promise I’ve used the search function, but didn’t really find what I was looking for

I have been curious about sleeping with another guy for a good while now. Coming from an extremely religious family ( both parents being pastors) I have had to keep my curiosity hidden. I know I will be disowned, and my parents would risk being casted out by their congregations. Over the past couple of years my curiosity has grown substantially. I’ve explored being pegged by women and rather enjoyed it, but finding women interested in that particular kink is extremely hard, and hasn’t completely curved my curiosity of being with a guy sexually. I’ve bounced on and off again on Grindr over the past year and a half. I either can’t find what I’m looking for, probably because my standards are very high. Another downside I have been scared off by creepers and people on Grindr telling me I’m going to catch something with or without protection. Or the one that’s been a trend is being ghosted as soon as guys realize I’m not an instant hook up and want to get to know them thru the app before we meet. I guess my questions are am I going the right route of vetting people and wanting to get to know my first as much as I want to, should I maybe try a different route to meet someone to explore this side of myself? Going to bars and meeting someone is a difficult task without it somehow ending up back to my family and causing major issues. I’m extremely close to my family and would be devastated if something I’m dying to experience ruined my relationship with them. Being open to them that yes I’m attracted to women but have a bi curiosity I want to explore wouldn’t sit right with them in the least