I recently started dating a guy about 2 months ago. I really like him and our relationship has progressed pretty rapidly. Everything has been great. Of course we’re still in the honeymoon phase but I really think this could work out.

I recently had my 29th birthday in September. My birthday has always been hard for me for several reasons but this year I was really bummed about being so close to 30. I didn’t come out until 2021 and, with living in a small southern city, feel like I’ve missed out on so much. I started a “bucket list” of things I wanna do before I turn 30. I mentioned this to him and apparently it inspired him to think about things he wants to experience. One of those things were a threesome.

For context, even though I’ve only been out for 2 years, I very quickly started expressing my sexuality lol. We’ve talked some about this and he knows I’ve been in a few threesomes. Anyway he wants to try it. And, to be clear, I am down to do so. However, I do have a couple of hesitations.

Firstly, while I’ve been in threesomes, I’ve never been a part of the couple. So I don’t know how I will respond to that. I’ve been in an open relationship. It did not end well as he broke some of our rules. Anyway, I’m open to non-monogamy but I’ve never been present with a partner engaging with someone else. Is there anyway to mentally/emotionally prepare for this?

Secondly, I don’t want there to be a break down in communication between us. This is new territory to some degree for both of us so we don’t know what we don’t know. Is there anything that we absolutely must discuss prior to?