I’m a young (19) male and have been out as gay for a while. Whenever I see or think about bottoming, it’s a huge turn on and I’d love to feel that feeling of being penetrated and fucked (without going into too much detail).

However, whenever I go to either get fucked or play with a sex toy, there’s a point about 4-5 inches deep where it hurts. I’ve tried resting a toy in there for a little while, but it just continues to hurt. I’ve tried butt plugs and stuff, yet it still hurts when I go up there. Still I really want to bottom, but always just end up getting guys to just finish somewhere else.

Is this normal? Is there some way to fix this over time? Or is this just what anal sex is?