So, my last question seemed to get a pretty unanimous opinion.

• there is no obligation to tell someone that “fathered” a pregnancy that you plan to or already did abort…assuming it was a casual hookup. And even less obligation if it was rape or some other non consensual situation. Or if telling this person would potential out you in harms way.

Most everyone seemed pretty much in agreement that, if you get pregnant with someone you are in a relationship with and aren’t sure what you want to do, involving them in the decision is a good idea…but ultimately, it’s the woman’s body and right to choose.

Curious thoughts on the below:

• would it be better to NOT tell the “father” that a pregnancy occurred? I’ve heard at least one person say that a man might be saddened to know there was a potential for him to have been a father but to know that potential was ended. Is it a situation where it’s just better to not know bc knowing could only cause pain and there’s no benefit to knowing?

• is there an obligation to tell the father if you get pregnant and keep the pregnancy? Is the obligation to the father or the child? What are the implications to letting a man know he is a father years after giving birth (especially if you are seeking financial support?)

Not trying to start fights or anything. I’m very much pro choice but just curious how other people think through these issues.