Recently there was a post on TwoX about "she comes first", where a man has to make a woman orgasm before she has PIV with him,

I found it interesting because the orgasm gap has come up on here but in a pretty academic way, like it's definitely something you hear a statistic about but I wonder about personal experiences with it or specific ideas (not just this one but others) to help solve this gap,

for example many women just won't bother with men anymore and this is one of the reason why. I guess if you can make yourself orgasm more without a male partner then there's no much point, and it's a little insulting to be unsafe in sex and men don't care so you end up with everyone involved centering the man like usual.

Even in that post there were men making the conversation about their own desires, like if you don't push back against them the default sex act will be male-centered and I wonder if this is policy is so revolutionary because it reveals how male-centered even a basic thing like PIV being considered "the sex act" is,

Like if you consider sex to only be about reproduction then it's funny because most PIV is about pleasure and not making new babies so I don't buy that it's a justified "default" setting, or if it is evolutionarily shaped maybe women will just select selfish partners out now lol,

My question is, has anyone here tried something like "she comes first"? What was the effect, did it end up helping the gap or did your partner not acquiesce. Or for the straight male feminist here, what has been the effect of this in your relationships since your partner has this policy. Or just offer thoughts of such policies put forward by indidivual people in general .