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In light of the violent uptick of online misogyny since the U.S. election, I'm feeling really hopeless and frankly sick due the fact that we can't seem to convince society to truly adopt feminist values.
Realistically, I know there are feminist men, but it really feels like basically half the population either actively hates me and other women or at least doesn't care enough to do anything about sexism/misogyny.
I'm really looking for a little hope here. Have any of you ever helped someone (of any gender) become less sexist/misogynist or more feminist? Or have you ever seen anyone become deradicalized even if you personally didn't have a hand in it?
Unfortunately I've had to help quite a few men understand and fix their bias against women... Even worse. Almost always what gets them is using someone they care about. Okay. The threat of violence isn't a big deal. Would you let your mother walk alone at night? Tell your sister or daughter don't be scared to walk through that group of men, no need to find another way around? Would your mother have been terrible if she had worked instead of being a stay at home mum? If a man assaulted your family would you think they were making it up or blowing it out of proportion to get attention? So many things. Even in relationships I've had to ask "how would you feel if your step dad treated your mother the way you treat me? If your little sisters bf did what you just did?" It's not relevant to them half the time until it's someone they care about. Then it changes from women are liars and have privileges to "some women". Next comes asking how can they know for sure which women are some women? Where they present when the in incident happened? Can they say without a doubt she didn't face discrimination because she was a working mother vs a father?
It also helps to break it down for them. Single mothers are supposed to take care of their kids? So why vilify working mothers? They're just looking for child support. If you believe she should have to take care of that child because she made it, "spread her legs knowing what could happen", why is it different for the man that got between them knowing what could happen?
Or a personal favorite 🙄, make them see how it harms men as well and they are normally more open to it.
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