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This was inspired by a post on the teachers subreddit where people were discussing girls and boys in terms of achievements (boy education crisis talk), but some people were talking about how girls are put off of boys their own age now, specifically because of the rampant online sexism seeping into their daily lives. I've heard about this phenomenon with adult women, who seem to be putting up with men somewhat less than before (but I expect that because even older women seem to decry marriage a lot nowadays), but how early is this "burnout" coming? As far as I can tell, girls actually seem to be pulling away from them because of the Andrew Tate-ism, Shapiro, Jordanson etc, which wasn't so much of a thing before? For example, while I think stuff like bra-snapping (popular in the early 2000s?) wasn't really tolerated, but more seen as "nothing", girls these days tolerate a lot less from their male classmates. The sexism's maybe more hostile, but the response seems more staunch as well. But idk.
These are kind of strange times, I guess. We have some TikTok influencers or so extolling tradwife lifestyles, and in the same breath you can find women who talk about how they've basically sworn off of partnering with men (or maybe just living with them) these times, and then you hear statistics about how women aren't dating men as much or how they're participating less in the workforce after COVID, and it's a little hard for me to put all these ducks in a row. But I really do wonder if that Germaine Greer quote is coming around now. "Women have no idea how much men hate them", something like that. I feel like nowadays, that's becoming less and less true, since women and especially girls (who've grown up with the internet) can basically see men's private thoughts about them now and wonder if even the ones who are nice to their face believe stuff like that behind closed doors, or would actively protest if the world started shifting to a place where men could just expect domestic servants again. If the same guy who they think of as a friend and seems benign enough would actually do anything more than shrug or give some strongly-worded complaint (then go back to their normal lives) if they were, say, forced out of education or a workplace. For example, it's rare to find a man who stands up for women in male-dominated online spaces. Typically, you'll see at least a couple of women defend men if something is said about them in a female-dominated space, but actually, to date, I've never once seen a man stand up for women in a male-dominated space when they begin to say sexist stuff. So then I wonder if the younger generations who've actually grown up with social media are actively noting these things.
I've seen evidence that single women with children parenting alone are often happier than they were in the relationship. Much happier than single men with children, single men that are now separated from their children for whatever reason, and frequently, happier than single childless men. But I've also met men who say they'll definitely date if their partner leaves or dies because who else is going to clean/cook whatever for them... Like... So you as a grown adult need someone else to do your basic living necessities? I see why so many are choosing to be single with kids instead of in a relationship where they have to also parent a grown man.
Oh I remember that one! Some in the comments told him he was lucky because some places could label that as surrogacy in court and she would be off the hook for child support let alone pay extra.
There were some men arguing she should have to do more than be a deadbeat or pay more and they got ripped into as well. Because there's so many who blame a woman for keeping a child or even getting pregnant in the first place knowing the man didn't want kids and it's her responsibility but they didn't want to apply the same there "it's different, where's her maternal instincts". The comments were amazing to watch. OP got dragged. Some from the pro-birth community got dragged because she did what they always suggest, have the baby and give it to someone that wants it. That post was chaos.
I recall telling someone recently, both online and in person, man what I wouldn't give to go back with stats and tell all those homophobic people it is in fact NOT a choice... Because as a bisexual woman... I would prefer to be lesbian... I've met many hetero women and gay men who say they wish they didn't like men, both jokingly and seriously. There's just so much at risk as a woman these days that I both don't want to deal with the audacity I often get from men, and the risks associated with being in a relationship with a man. If it was a choice, someone please point me to the selection process so I can change mine pronto
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There was a very beautiful post on Reddit where a man had a bad divorce with his wife, got 50/50 custody but he was struggling terribly during his time with the kids. Struggling to make it through his week and playing catch up the whole week off. Wanted to get back together with his ex wife but she had no interest, she was living her best life. Had more time than ever. Didn't struggle at all during her time. He even mentioned how he wished he could request less time for custody but that would require child support and he can't afford that. And there were quite a few similar to it but that one really stuck with me as a good example of multiple things.
Even without partial custody, I've met many women who feel more free without the extra responsibility of a husband/boyfriend when it comes to parenting and I think that says quite a bit.