So I have a friend I was talking to recently and she was saying that by being sugar baby or otherwise engaging in sex work, she had power over men because in her words "I was making them pay to spend time with me. I could use sex to extort them." Basically that as SW she had emotional and sexual power over (male) clients that she could use to compel them to give her money. This feels very close to the classic "men just can't help themselves"/"pussywhipped" idea that people have. I tried to mention how her clients had more power over her than the reverse. For instance, the (older male) clients have more social, legal, financial, and physical power. I also mentioned how her addiction made her vulnerable to even greater exploitation than "normal". I kind of only got resistance.

1. Am I understanding the power dynamics of this situation correctly

2. Is there way to challenge this kind of thinking that might be more productive?