So, I was on r/feminism the other day, and there was a post relating to men and how low their standards are in relation to basically everything to the point that they make incredibly poor partners. Not a shocker, I know, but the poster included in their summary of their thoughts the line...

"Also, I see like 20 drop dead gorgeous women out and about per day. Why do I see like MAYBE one sort of good looking man per month?"

I made a comment about how men are held to low standards when it comes to physical appearence, whereas women are raised with the expectation that they should make themselves look good for others. I didn't hide that I am myself a man, and so received this as a response....

"Have you considered holding yourself up to the same standards that you expect from women?"

And it got me thinking, would it be so unfair to hold men to the same standards as women and thus expect them to make themselves more attractive and 'good looking' in their day to day lives? Or, is the real problem that we as a society place such pressure on women to look good that the target of this societal rebalancing of the scales should be the women and not the men? That from the commenters point of view she should be seeing less 'drop dead gorgeous women' as opposed to more 'good looking men.'

My real issue is that I can't reconcile these two conflicting approaches in my head, as neither seems unreasonable. It is unfair to hold women to such high standards. They should dress for themselves, and be themselves, and it's nobody elses business but theres. But by that same token, men could definitely be said to really have dropped the ball when it comes to their own standards and a bit of a kick up the backside wouldn't be remiss. But is it hypocritical to ask or pressure men to hold themselves to a higher standard of attractiveness when surely they should also be allowed to dress for themselves and be themselves?