i posted this in another subreddit and was told this one may be more appropriate. Is it realistic for me as a woman to be in a relationship/triad with two gay (bisexual) men? I’m opening myself up to non monogamy but i would want to join a relationship wherein two men were already together (my ideal dynamic sort of ties into more than just non monogomy but power? dynamics as a kink maybe too?). For context, I am a queer woman in her early twenties and recently started going out more, particularly to gay techno clubs and I guess I sort of developed an attraction for like gay men (I say this because again, I’m pretty queer and am not quite into heteronormative ass straight men:/) because I experienced/saw these dynamics in the club of a mmf interactions in which the men were the main duo/ thing and the girl added on and I realised this dynamic feels very appealing to me (I think kink wise too, it would be kind of nice to feel like a sort of accessory/pet?):. I’m not really used to seeing people in open relationships within my friend group so having been introduced to these kinda of relationships this year has been very eye opening for me. I don’t want just a threesome or sex though; I want a real emotional connection within the triad, which is why I’m wondering if these kind of relationships/triads/throuples happen often? Or are mmf’s usually just a V-polycule kind of situation? How would I even go about finding the dynamic that i’m seeking? Feeld doesn’t have many options where I’m from, and I’m shy to ask people in person if they’re bi/ don’t want people to think I’m predatory or smthg, you know? I’m sorry if this post doesn’t belong here but I’m really unsure how to explore these feelings and wants.

If anyone’s been or is in this kind of triad pls tell me abt ur experience. Thank you.