Trying to be delicate here with info: I like to think I get on with my regular for what is essentially 1 hour a month for the last 10-11 months. She’s very welcoming, does her job well and we can have a decent chat afterwards.  (I keep going back after all)

Call it a personality trait but I’m one of those who hates being a burden and asking for things even as a paying client.  There’s enough slight variety in our sessions to mix things up but I’d like more variety… nothing crazy, just in terms of different positions and DATY.   

[Actual Question] I’m probably overthinking this but I’m looking to see where the majority stands as to the best time to make suggestions.? I should add that her profile covers what I’m looking for but understand some of you might like to be prepared.

-        Intro chit-cat – I tend to be still nervous as this point

-       Post-shower where I’m more relaxed and the session begins in earnest

-        During booking / reconfirmation messages – our texts are very brief and to the point.  While she is pretty fluent in English (her 2^nd language) she has admitted that her text/written communication is limited-okay.  I'm also tempted to stay away from asking for things in messages for self-incriminating reasons

-        Pillow talk chit-chat.  There’s an element of being more relaxed at this stage but it can feel a bit “too late” if I mention it then for our next meeting.

Any thoughts?  Meeting her in a couple of days but advice welcome for future meetings