I’ll preface by saying I’m only 22, so still too young to have one lol, but still. Why I don’t want one is a combination of selfishness and fear.

So yeah I can be pretty selfish, not my finest trait I’ll admit. I’ve been fond of he idea of waking up at 3am to tend a crying baby and taking time away from work to handle them, feeding more than 2 mouths, paying thousands for college and other expenses. I don’t know how much money I’ll have or be making in the future. What if I don’t make enough for a suitable living? Or worse, I somehow lose all my income?

I’m mostly afraid though. I turned out to be fine, but what if something bad happens to them? What if they get addicted to drugs, evoke an adult film star, abusive relationships, killed? I can’t imagine the pain of horrible things happening to your own child and don’t know how I could live with myself.

I don’t think I could make a good dad. Am I in the wrong for not wanting that?