My mum texts me a lot (i live and work abroad) about when i’m next doing long call shifts, when am i moving out, when am i coming home, have you done this and that and will give “advice” like “you should do this now” “you should ask about this”. I’ve lived abroad for almost 7 years. I can sort myself out. I texted her simple vague answers to her questions and also texted her please to let me just sort it out because it’s frustrating to explain to her about details she doesn’t understand. If i need advice, i will ask. One thing i hate is when i do follow advice, if it does work out, she gloats “Aah seeeee you should listen to mummy!” If it doesn’t, it’s my fault for messing up “why you do that??” So, now i’d just rather avoid that. Am i a shit child for doing this? Or is this boundary setting? I have no idea. My inner asian is saying i’m being a shitty.