A few weeks ago i was feeling better and reconsidering getting back in touch with my abusive parents. But after a small interaction with my great aunt, it threw me back into depression.

I cannot tell if this behavior is "normal" or "expected" in asian parents, so please let me know.

Example: 1. My great aunt did a surprise visit to me and my spouse, even tho we specifically said we do not want to meet that night. Then she guilt us into having dinnee with her and her friend (yes she brought a friend).

1. The next day we plan to meet her downtown to hangout. she met us and brought a ton of gifts, gifts that we have to carry around with us all day in downtown. Later i told her my unhappiness with this situation.

During our time together she is quite overbearing and over protective even tho i am a grown ass person.

This small interaction threw me into a mini depression / anxiety episode because it brought me back to my abusive parents who left me with no choice. I felt so helpless and trapped. I thought the time away from my parents made me stronger. But small overbearing ness brought me back to be that young girl who were helpess.