My AP decided to move to another country (not saying which one for privacy) before I was born. They had me there and raised me there. I was extremely unhappy to grow up in my country because I disliked its lifestyle and I suffered from a lot of isolation, alienation and racism - all problems my AP didn’t do anything to support me. So I became depressed.

I wasn’t allowed to express that I was extremely unhappy however, because my AP would not accept that their kids would end up unhappy after they decided to go through the hassle of upending their lives and moving. They forced me to hide my depression and perform happiness and positivity all the time.

They’ve never been able to accept the consequences of any decisions they make. Whenever they make decision - like moving to a different country - and it’s the wrong decision, they can’t accept that they made the wrong call and fucked up. And then they look to their children to validate their decision by forcing us to be happy here and always have 100% positive feelings about it. But like, that’s not my job. I didn’t make the call to move, THEY DID - and therefore, because they made that call, they must take responsibility for that decision and all the potential consequences that this decision might caused, including the fact that their kids might be very unhappy in the country they chose to move to and might hate it here. Like that is a possibility and you have to consider this and accept that it can happen - and that other bad things can happen - when you make the decision. If you didn’t think this through before moving, that’s 100000% your fault for not being a thoughtful person. Don’t put this on me.

I genuinely think that my parents aren’t very thoughtful people and don’t think through any decisions they make in life. And when their thoughtlessness and unwise decisions catches up with them, they are very unwilling to take responsibility for their own choices and prefer to blame everyone and everything else instead of trying to do better.