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I’m a 20 year-old undergraduate student. After years of physical beatings, emotional abuse, an unstable and separated household, an emotionally unavailable father and a mentally ill mother, I decided that my parents’ opinions have absolutely NO VALUE whatsoever.
Every piece of advice they have given me has always ended poorly for me. My father would not let me grow out my hair for the longest time and always bitches about it. Recently, my barber fucked up my hair so I came home screaming at my father that I was going to grow it out and perm it, and he can’t do shit about it. He took it quietly given how angry I was.
I’ve posted on this sub about my mentally ill mother before. Her condition got worse and she’s completely out of touch with time and reality. Because of the shitty upbringing she gave me, I’ve decided to abandon her and let Darwinism weed her out of the game of life. She cannot be saved because of the severity of her condition, with her supernatural beliefs going above and beyond, and her messiah complex.
Both of my parents have given me shit for liking black women in the past. I lost the chance at several relationships because they screamed at me so much for it to the point where it’s only Asian women for me. Ok, cool, I’m open to dating Asian women but I am also open to dating black women too. I stood up to them and they did not like it, but they can’t control my life lmfao. Cry about it.
When I graduate, I’ll just write my parents a fucking check and let them live out the rest of their lives without them interfering with my life anymore as a thank you for killing all the weakness and good in me. I still got a lot of years ahead of me. My childhood and youth was robbed, but not my prime. Not this time, APs.
Fuck this whole Asian parent-child dynamic thing. Just gaslight and break your parents emotionally and cause them the same suffering they inflicted on you, or cut them off. Most Asian parents are physically weak, they can’t do shit to you. Take power away from them. Make them cry. My parents failed me, so they will have to face the consequences when the time comes: an estranged child who refuses to acknowledge their existence. They gave me a mental illness called DEPRESSION from the years spent under their household. They can fuck themselves.
Me and you had the same "idgaf" transition. I used to be physically abused by both parents. I remember working out and doing combat sports for years before I physically imposed myself to avoid listening to them when I was 19 (I had to get bigger, my dads built and was an athlete). I got into a physical altercation once with my dad, after which they really did stop bothering me and tried to treat me better.
What followed was me constantly saying no to them, disregarding what they want from me, etc..
They picked my high school subjects for fuck sake, and didn't let me do what I wanted in uni. I've wasted so much life and potential listening to what they wanted and their so called "guidance". Like bitch I grew up here, I know how shit works, stop telling me what to do.
They didn't even let me date until I forced them to accept that I do. I had girls I liked in high school and they liked me back, but I burnt those bridges thinking that they knew what was good for me. All I have now are insecurities because I didn't get to date when I was young while all my partners had that experience.
But hey, freedom tastes sweeter when you were in jail, so take it easy and look forward to the life ahead.
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