I typed support as a flair because I will take any and all supportive words right now, but this is more of a rant/vent really, so if you need me to change it, just let me know.

My APs hold a Puja (worshipping) every year around this time. It's according to the regional calendar so the English date varies. It's today, 20.01.2023. Last year they invited my abuser and I did not go. This year they did not invite her but I refused to go because other abusers would be there (what do you know, it's a Desi family!)

Anyway, I have a cat who has a congenital renal problem. She is currently having a flare up and is on a very strict prescription diet and meds. My dad knows about all of this, and I have visited that house (my childhood home) with my cats before. He has been goading me, pleading with me, begging me to visit. I have told him I wouldn't, because of the reason stated above. He kept begging me even today. I got really sad because the majority of my extended family is going to be there, it's a huge thing, and I am having massive FOMO because I don't really see them.

I told my dad okay, I'll figure transport out and will reach early morning (the ritual starts after midnight) and to just keep the room ready for my cats. And he suddenly says he won't be able to give me a room. I asked if he knew that, why did he keep asking me to come, because he knows I cannot without my cat, she is sick and depends on me. He just said "oh because I want my child here..."

We have talked since then. No word about it anymore. I just hate how he kept asking me until I changed my mind and then left my high and.dry. I have been saying no for weeks now, and he hasn't been able to stop talking about it, and the moment I say fine, he rejects it? Why would he even do this?