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tldr I had a situationship with this white girl at my college who was pretty much my exact type (blonde, christian, not a partier, same politics) that ended with her choosing a white dude over me, coming back after she got dumped, and now acting really cold again.
i recently grew into my looks. i’m a little over 6”2 weighing around 185 lean. i learned how to dress, started mewing, and dieting down. i just did my first modeling gig on the side last weekend. i don’t consider myself a bad looking guy by any means, but none of this made a difference with her. But still I’ve been stuck in this toxic mindset of “what if I was 6”3 or a bit more stylish or my face was a bit leaner” even though the guy she went with wasn’t near that level on any aspect
a few years ago when i was actively dating I was 5”9 and kind of chubby (2020-2021 range) and therefore I still don’t really have any real experience and confidence besides some hookups and an ex of 1 year. this new girl was the first person I put myself out there for since “leveling up”
and her choosing someone else despite that has me spiraling into my old mindset of wondering how many of my ideal partner would reject me just because of my race.
any thoughts and similar experiences would be appreciated
I hope I don’t get flack for this. I’m on a lot of sub because I love learning information. I have seen post like this or “Why are Asian Men are last picked or not attractive?” And be looking at the post like, “Where are they getting this from or who is telling them this because Asian Men are just as attractive as any other ethnicity. Especially a jacked up gym Asian Guy 😛😩
No seriously, but I’m noticing a common thing. And it’s most of the post are about not being enough for white women. Uuuuuh, I get it that you can’t help who you are attracted to but maybe THAT white girl is not for you. Continue on your productive improvement of yourself and I’m sure you will find one that likes you for you without embarrassment from friends and family or other social constructs that certain people allow to dictate their lives. You sound like you’re a good looking guy, you didn’t mention she was hott so go find that HOTT girl that matches your energy.
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