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Hi there, just wanted to get some input on my Hinge profile here and want some feedback from fellow members of the asian community!
I am getting some good matches, but matches are not as frequent as they used to be. I used to have a decent amount of success with matches and likes back when I lived in New York during the summer for an internship, but now that I moved back to school, it has definitely dwindled.
In terms of my hypotheses, I have a few. First thing is that I don't think I'm very photogenic, posing for photos feels weird to me. Next thing that NYC is obviously a very good city for dating and there isn't anything that really compares. As a corollary, I was interning in a position that I guess would be considered "prestigous" which I put on my profile which might have been carrying me, probably appealing to the hustle and bustlers of NYC. Next, I live in a city with a small asian population so that is probably in some part polarizing. I am also a bit iffy on the second prompt, but I can see why it could work.
I would change your first picture to something less blurry/more up close... A solid portrait (shoulders/waist up) with a smile kills every time I feel.
Add something onto your first question... why do you want someone creative? do you do anything creative? mention that.
Voice responses are cute as well!
Make the first pic you have the Second photo instead.. The second pic isn't do anything for me.. just kinda meh.
the third pic shows you have friends (a plus..). but gives off Fuckboi vibes..
Looking for the cute girl next door.. Kind of a bland response.. You have an opportunity with these questions to provide insight on who You are as well...
The weird pose in the restaurant needs to go.. Blurry, weird background..
Yeahhh. Who doesn't like laughing and deep conversations? Kinda bland again..
The blue sweater photo shows your face! Finally not a blurry photo. Downside? you're not smiling...
I actually do like the moody shot of you standing on the sidewalk. It's cute.
I'm 29 for reference. A gal living in the US.
I just went through and critiqued the bio before even reading your notes on it... Interesting theories.. But idk. Overall you seem basic. Zest really stands out to me on bios.
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I'll give you examples of what I mean when it comes to the Question Prompts they give you...
I pulled some from a 2022 list.. so again, just examples:
"I won't shut up about..." ~~ how a stir fry is the superior dish to any other, the fact that white-wall tires need to make a comeback, the Colors studio and BBC1 radio Live Lounge having the best musicians on, and my own weird addiction to skincare
"I'll fall for you if..." ~~ you chop the onions and I do literally anything else while cooking lmao. AND if you like aimlessly shopping while we go out for a lil sweet treat. I love window shopping. who doesn't want to pretend they're fly-fishermen while in Bass Pro Shops?
so yeah - two examples there. I answered them seriously too lol.
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I definitely can have an RBF in person! samesies. but in a dating profile I think smiles are king. you can pull off the moody vibe in some for sure, not every photo has to be a grin! I've seen some really cool artistic shots people have posted and liked them.
Oh, for sure! But regardless of whether I'm looking for a hookup (which I don't advertise lol) or someone to date, I always enjoy a good look into who the person is.. Maybe I'm nosy? idk. If I were to break into someone's house I'd just look at their things/decor and bail. I love when someone openly expresses their style (in whatever form it is). anyway.
Interesting!! It wasn't like that when I was your age (a solid 7 years ago..). But the overall feel for online dating has changed since I started using it... I got on when I was 20-21? It's hard to describe the shift. And in some places (smaller cities) it's like it hasn't changed at all.
I can definitely see how adding more to the Prompts could be considered negatively.