My (m27) GF (f30) and I have been together for almost 7 years. She told me she is asexual around three years ago and describes herself as sex-neutral. She has told me that she is fine with sex, but otherwise has little to no interest, and anytime we have, I have initiated. We have not had sex in over two years, and it’s not because she isn’t willing, but because I haven’t asked.

I consider myself fortunate that prior to her, I hadn’t had many relationships, certainly none that I would consider more than slightly serious. I think that has been good for me, because I didn’t epxend much time and emotional energy on relationships that didn’t last. Basically, I wasn’t much interested in dating anyone who I didn’t see a future with. All this to say, I love my GF, and even though we haven’t been intimate in over two years, I’ve discovered that I don’t need a sex life with her for our relationship to be amazing and for it to mean everything to me.

At the same time though, I I’ve learned that I still very much want sex. I used to think that for me, I needed the strong intellectual/emotional connection with someone to also have sexual interest. But that seems to not be true. I think it’s partly due to have very few relationships prior, none of which became sexually intimate. I guess I just never really figured that side of myself out, and I’m just starting to now.

Not really sure what I’m looking for with this. Sorry about that, as well as the length. I mostly just felt the need to express this stuff to people who might feel similarly. Thanks