So, I suspect I might be asexual. I do have some libido (a low one but she's there), but my segsual feelings are never really directed at people. They're more directed toward... like... the abstract concept of sexuality. It's usually just focused on what makes me feel good and not on anything else. I definitely feel romantic attraction though: I find myself liking people a lot, and if I like them enough all I want to do is just hug them and kiss them and all that gross stuff. But I have never felt the overwhelming urge to mush my privates against theirs (that is how sex works, right?).

The part that trips me up is that I have had sex and genuinely enjoyed it. With my previous SO, I pleasured them but they never pleasured me (bc I never wanted them to) and I genuinely enjoyed being able to satisfy them in that way- but I think that the part I enjoyed was the closeness that the activity required, and I liked being able to make them happy. But I didn't enjoy it any more than I enjoy cuddling and kissing- it was like another form of cuddling for me. Does this count as sexual attraction? IDK, can anyone relate? Am I asexual enough to be considered asexual? Maybe I'm demi-sexual or something, who knows.

I know you guys can't know exactly what I am based on this, but I just wanted to see what actual ace people think I might be. Thank you in advance :)