So I don’t know if I’m asexual or what honestly. But I need some help figuring me out.

So I do have a kid, almost 11. I was hypersexual in my late teens & early 20s. I’m 35 now if that makes any difference? I have found now, since prob year 5 of being married to my exhusband (our divorce will FINALLY be signed off Feb 2024!!) that I don’t have any sexual interest unless I’m connected to the person I am with & have a bond with them. Even then I thrive in a relationship with affection like hugs, holding hands, cuddling, kisses, more so than anything sexual. And of course I’m super quiet & I enjoy just like, being in the same room together playing video games or watching a movie and can be together or separately doing these things. I do think I’m pansexual as well as I have discovered gender identity doesn’t seem important to me but more or less who the person is & our friendship etc. but I do know if I find a person gorgeous I’m legit telling you that you’re heckin gorgeous. And males who paint their nails makes me melt for some reason lol. (Maybe that’s a generation thing?)

Anyways anybody have any advice on this? Thanks