Hi, I'm a middle-aged man with a vasectomy and a really high sex-drive.

You might read the line above and think that I'm some kind of hedonist horn-dog that just wants to bed-down with any reasonably attractive woman that will throw me a bone, but that's not the case.

I don't really get much from meaningless sex. I like to have an emotional connection with the person I'm sleeping with, and I like to know that they are also enjoying themselves, and that they have some kind of emotional connection to me.

So, if this is the case, why am I looking in hookup subreddits, rather than SFW subs?

I'm doing this because one major hobby of mine, is collecting Vintage Boob Porn (DVDs, VHS in some cases, Magazines, Terra-bytes upon Terra-bytes of downloaded content).

I also enjoy making Erotic Ai art (mainly topless Pin-up photos, and occasionally animations. Though previous to 2022, I made much more abstract/psychedelic Ai assisted erotic content... as far back as 2015).

I am not ashamed of this hobby. But sadly, every romantic relationship I have had for the last 20 years, has ended with my partner deciding that collecting Porn, and Making Porn inspired art, is not a valid hobby, and that I am a bad (even unfaithful) person for doing so.

I have never cheated on a partner. I have never neglected a partner, nor chosen any other activity over spending time with them. If my partner, or a friend, or a family member ever reaches out to me while I'm in the middle of engaging with any of my hobbies, I will always set aside what I'm doing, and spend time with that parter/friend/family member... because ultimately... I consider all of my hobbies to just be something to do while I'm not working or spending time with friends/family.

So to make a long story short, I feel like my hobby is something I should be upfront about... and I feel like the only way to avoid repeating the cycle of eventual heartbreak, is to find someone that has a decent sex-drive, and also has an appreciation for porn and eroticism.

Post description might be hyperbolic. Do you have to be a "Goonette" to date me?

No.

Do you have to be willing to watch porn with me?

No.

Do I need porn to be playing while we're intimate?

No.

But would I object to any of the aforementioned things?

No, in fact I would love a girlfriend that I could... trade porn with... watch porn with... be proud to share my art with... explorer other kinks with (your kinks).

Essentially, I just want a girlfriend. One that isn't going to judge me for my hobby.

One that needs sex as much as I do, but doesn't mind if I "take care of myself" when they aren't in the mood. One that isn't going to look at the fact that I "take care of myself" when they aren't in the mood, as some kind of unfaithful act, worthy of retribution (like breaking up with me, or hooking up with someone else, and claiming it was justified because viewing porn by ones self is somehow equivalent to having full-blown intercourse with another person).

I think my rant is long enough at this point.

If you've made it this far, and you still want to know more about me, there's a "BIO" in my post-history. Have a look at it, and if you're still interested after that... reach out to me.

--share and enjoy

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