Hi all,

I recently started dating last year and I learned I am anxious attachment. When I dated my ex last year in the summer, it was full force. He turned out to be an avoidant partner, and ended things and I was so broken. I actually felt relieved on top of depression when it ended as I was ao anxious everyday. I do not like myself being anxiously attached and have been working on it. I am dating someone new who is so far considerate and thoughtful, but I can feel my anxious attachment fire up. I can feel myself wanting to hang out with them daily, waiting for texts, anxious that he is going to dump me, etc. I have been working on it, and here are something I have been doing to help myself:

1. Going to therapy and working on my self-esteem with my councellor. I have been utilizing CBT and journalling.
2. Giving space between hangouts and remembering to live my own life. Hanging out with friends and family, focusing on work, giving myself me-time, and still practicing my hobbies. I try to see him twice a week.
3. Remembering his flaws and human qualities - and not put him on a pedestal. Remembering the things that can give me an ick. He is human, and just because he did "xyz" does not make him a perfect person. I am trying everyday to take him off a pedestal.
4. Limit texting - I try not to reply right away and focus on what I'd doing. Also just give him leeway and remember that he has a life outside of texting. If he does not respond right away, I try to rationalize it - he can be studying, sleeping, hanging with friends, etc. I also remind myself that if he is being a crappy communicator that is on him not me.
5. Try to see other people - I try not to see too much other people, but till we are exclusive, I do like to see others just to keep the pressure off of one person.

Does anyone else have any other tips? It would be highly appreciated! I want to be secure so bad, but I'm trying to accept myself although. Thank you!