Hi all,

I’m super close with my best friend and I have anxious attachment which she is aware of and sometimes I project this unto her as well.

She recently asked me to hang out and I said that I had to be back by 6:30 pm and she said “Nevermind I thought of something in the evening”. I feel like my bestie assumes that I am going to be hanging out with a boy, but I’m not sure what her assumptions are. She hasn’t responded to my texts or my tiktoks sent but she is active of social media all night.

I’m feeling quite anxious that she is upset with me for not making plans with her. I am just trying to remind myself - she would say something if she was upset and/or she has a social battery like everyone else and will respond when she is well and ready. She says she is secure attachment style, and she is no way obligated to respond to me, but I am super anxious she hasn’t responded and she is upset with me. I’m trying not to fixate on it too much cause I can’t control her. She usually is a great texter and very fast, so this made me feel even more anxious.

Anybody else feels this way with their friends? Any tips and advice on when feeling anxious about a text back but from a friend?