My boyfriend has a friend. She is a girl. And it's driving me insane with anxiety.

I don't trust her, and my anxiety doesn't trust him. Every time he tells me he was with her or hung out with her my body shakes, I get nauseous, and I typically start tearing up from anger and anxiety. I can't take it anymore. I've told him this. And we talk about it every time it comes up, but I can ask as many questions possible, and I don't feel any better about it.

I don't want to be the person to tell him to chose, me or her. He told me that he sees her as a "guy friend with a vagina." They both have ADHD, so she understand him well and he likes having her to talk to. He has some guy friends, but he connects better with girls. He tells me that we will get through this, that we will talk about this, but I don't see this getting any better. I am so done, that my rage and anxiety just wants to end it with him to not feel this huge anxiety attack every time he is with her.

I am at a loss. I love him. And we are so good together, I don't want to break up their friendship cause I want him to have a good friend he can spend time together with. But I just can't stand the fact that it's with a girl.

Does anyone have any tips or tricks? I feel like I'm gonna be sick all day today.