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I'm sure I am being anxious or is it a gut feeling?
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I am very set in my ways, I hate change & I can always make up a big bad story about it. If someone says something that validates this internal voice of doom then I am even worse. I understand that these are just thoughts & I do not even know if they will come true but they really depress me. I have suffered from depression in the past but I have overcome this now with lifestyle changes but soon as a big decision arises that's it I get anxious. My latest situation has got me thinking is this a gut feeling that I should listen to or is this my anxiety playing up?

I end up getting anxious about being anxious about the gut feeling or anxiety question hahaa. It's like a big circle that gets me no where.

Basically, I am having to move house due to my father coming to stay who's mobility is not very good. I have lived in my current place for 6 years even though it is too small as I have a young son who stays. I have found somewhere bigger in a nice area, with 3 bedrooms, garage & driveway for only £75 a month more in rent. It's also closer to my son school. But, the decoration inside & furniture is dated & from the 80's. I showed my gf the pictures & she said its depressing & she doesn't like it. That was enough to set me off. Before she said this I had just managed to settle my worries but I am now thinking:

It's awful inside I am going to hate it. What happens if its haunted What happens if the landlord decides to sell & I become homeless What happens if big bills arise & I cannot afford to live What happens if my gf never comes round because she hates it How is my current elderly neighbour going to manage without me when I move What if the washing machine doesn't work I will never see my local shop keeper again which will upset me What if my son hates the place & wont stay with me

The thing is that I have read & watched loads of books / videos about how our brains work & make external circumstances appear bad & how we can take control of our emotions but I get lost in these worries.

Just by looking at what I have wrote I am coming to the conclusion that I am anxious & it is not a gut feeling so I need to try & deal with these thoughts.

Can someone please comment on whether they believe I am just anxious & I am not having this gut feeling intuition that I should listen to?

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