Hi everyone!

As bots and scammers are getting more bold by the day, more and more posts of them are getting upvoted and commented on. Not that big of a deal, some might say (and even have said so when I notify them of the fakeness of the account), but I’d like to differ;

1. Bots/karma farmers/scammers know of two currencies: Reddit karma (which allows them to post in more subreddits with limits, and potentially find more victims for their nefarious ways), and money (by whatever means). Giving upvotes and comments to bots are therefore linked to their potential to do more harm.

2. They steal photos from real people, and sharing them online without consent (which is a criminal offence).

3. It deters real women from posting.

4. It limits your chances with real women looking for something sexual in these apps.

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How to spot fake users

Bots are getting smarter by the day, but there are usually quite a few ways to spot them if you take one minute to check their profile:

1. Username. Often a feminine one (name, sexual undertone), or a randomised Reddit name.
2. Account age. Either a few days old, or years old with not much content until a few days ago (bot accounts often buy old, inactive accounts).
3. Post history. Only posts from the last few days, nothing prior. Spams in hundreds of different subreddits, including locations that are on opposite sides of the world.
4. Post titles. Sometimes clearly (and badly, might I add) translated.
5. Their age. More often than not, users pick an age between 19 and 24. Be extra alert when someone mentions an age like that.
6. Comment history. Often non-existent, or random comments years ago (when bought over).
7. Bio. THE BIGGEST GIVEAWAY. They usually have a specific pattern: who they are (clearly sexual), their location (often times it’s Philadelphia, Germany, or Australia), and a written out link to “all my links”. This is 100% fake. Reddit had a designated spot to use for links, so anyone using their bio is either fake, or rather dense.
8. VERIFICATION. Because most real users know there are many fakes on here, they often chose to have some verification on their profile, either in their own profile or posted in other subs. Bots NEVER post in subreddits that ask for verification (because of stolen photos), and NEVER have verification on their profile.

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How to increase chances to find a real woman to meet up with.

I often hear that there are no women at all meetings up with guys on Reddit, but that’s simply not true. For every straight guy who gets lucky finding someone on here, there’s a woman who got lucky as well. I have met up with people I met on here, and so have many of other women I have come to know within the communities. So here’s some tips that might help:

PROFILE

1. Have some content on your profile. Empty profiles are a bit of an orange flag for a lot of women. Having some content, either sfw or nsfw, might help giving you some personality.
2. And keep it kind in your comment history. No one wants to meet with harmful individuals.

POSTS

1. Take a peek at this subreddit, and 9/10 it’s just a short title and similar body of the post. Think of this: a lack of effort in your post will not make women reach out, won’t make you stand out, and might make you come across as l acklustre or even lazy, and no one wants a lazy lover!
2. Write some fun facts about yo urself, put i n some effort. Share the basics (age, gender, location, what you’re looking for, what you can offer, etc.) Write it once, and you can save it in your notes app to use again when needed.
3. Posting a photo alongside is fine, but make sure it looks good. When in doubt: just go with a text, and save the photos for later!

Contacting someone

1. Here’s the part where most people are bad at. As a women, you get tens of new messages a day. Yes, you read that right. The balance is extremely off in this app (and dating apps in general), but you are able to work the numbers if you’re willing to take the time.
2. Start with a compliment, introduction, and interest in the person. A simple “Hey, I found your profile and I really like your posts! (Insert a personal compliment like “the blue stockings in your last photo look so good on you”) I’m (age, gender, location), and I’d love to chat to see if there’s a connection here, if you’re interested! :)” works wonders, and can be copy pasted whenever you want.
3. A “hey” without anything else doesn’t spark any interest, nor shows any interest from your side. It’s easy, yes, but often also left unanswered.
4. NO DICK PICS OR NUDES. I cannot stress this enough. It’s against Reddits TOS, as well as local laws ever since recent years. It’s just not sexy. Consent is what matters, so ask before you send it, or post your photo on your profile and refer to it in DMs (“I have a dick pic on my profile if you’re interested in seeing that”).
5. Treat people with respect. Posting (semi-)nudes on Reddit doesn’t mean respect can be omitted. If you want to meet up with someone, make sure you know how to show respect, kindness, and interest in someone. I personally chat to see what kind of person someone is, if there’s a vibe, and if I’m able to trust the person. Having a friendly conversation really helps with that.
6. Show interest. Mentioned this before as well, but I can’t emphasise this enough: a little interest in someone goes a very long way. Ask, comment on things she said, show her you’re eager to get to know her. Of course, this should be reciprocated, but showing interest will make you stand out in a crowd of guys wanting to meet up without a quick chat.
7. Safety first. No woman is going to meet up with someone she doesn’t know at all. Build some rapport, and propose to meet up in a public place when you feel the connection is there. Be also able to talk STDs, as well as the use of birth control!
8. Show some personality! If you’re chatting with someone and there’s interest from both sides in having the chat, be yourself! They want to get to know you, not a polished version of yourself. Talk about what you like to do in your day to day life, what your passions are, etc. Confidence and passion are very sexy!
9. Be able to verify! Speaking from a heteronormative perspective here (but change for gender based on your situation): even though lots of women are fake, it doesn’t mean men aren’t. If the woman has given verification in her profile, be ready to provide some of yourself as well if the need ever arises. Of course, only when discusses prior, but mentioning you’re willing to do so might help create a sense of safety!

Just to be clear: you don’t need to do ALL of them. They’re just tips from my side as a woman on Reddit, and you don’t have to do any of them if you don’t want to. Definitely don’t post anything if you feel uncomfortable doing so; I’m mainly giving tips per subset of potential way to find someone, with the hopes it helps you finding someone who connect with!

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Oof, my thumbs are sore now, lol. I hope this helps somewhat, and I hope my tips might help getting you in contact with the lovely lady you’ve had your eyes on for a long time.

Have fun, and enjoy yourself!!😏