Not a shit post, really lol.

I think I've taken anal related kinks to a new level, well..not that new but I'm coming to terms with expectations with dating. I do want to date someone, love them, spend time with them. But I'm really at odds of when I should bring up my sexual preferences. I've had bad experiences being upfront, and waiting.

I'm only 31, look younger, fit, good looking blah blah, but like I don't want to be that fuckboi on the first date who says "oh hey btw, I don't like vagina but I have a massive butthole fetish", because that comes off thirsty and that's not it. I just don't know when I should bring it up. You're an asshole if you do in the beginning, or you're an asshole for stringing them along after seeing each other for a while and they aren't into it (which is totally okay).

I know they're out there, but as I get older (I'm only 31 lol) it does start to affect me. I've come to terms that I am a massive butthole lover and want that kink to be a good sized part of my life, within reason, but I'm okay with that.

Just feels lonely, anyone else feel like that and want to cheer each other up lol.

Edit: I like all genders, if that helps.