The wife and I have been sexless for over a year…and she’s not ok w being open. I honestly don’t think it’s me… it bugs her when we go out and someone hits on me… it does happen often. It’s not arrogance just truth. She’s just lost interest in sex as she’s only 25. She constantly is lazy and won’t even help clean the house and I’m exhausted w taking care of bills and the entirety of adulthood when she can barely pull weight… (I have to do most of the cleaning cause she won’t… not expecting her to do it all)…I’ve taken measures to set up to leave, but financially we are so tied together because we both run most shifts at work and I’m scared of losing my job. If they have to make a choice, I’m more amicable, she’s more liked, I’m the harder worker. I need and crave the touch of someone else, but cheating comes into everyone’s mind. When is it fair to me… I don’t want to lose my job I’ve worked 4 hard years for, to have the money I can make. Starting at the bottom is poor in my line of work. But if we aren’t working out… and it’s gonna be about 6 months before I can leave… and most people won’t be w a married person… how do I fight this feeling? Or even find someone who is willing to meet for a drink and chat? I feel like I’m going crazy on this side… any advice would help. Thanks for listening to my rant… felt like this is the only safe place to vent.