Hey guys. So recently I’ve (F26) been told by an old friend (F30) that I was a butt face for not going to her house to save her from her “abusive” husband. Some of the reasons I didn’t go: This was about the 3rd time this had happened, each time her husband comes outside when I get there and stands over me and follows us around the house or to the car and goes back and gaslights everyone around. It makes me really scared and nervous. The second thing is she admitted to me that she instigates most of the fights, hits him first, says horrible things to him to get a reaction, and I quote “I make myself to be more of the victim so I can make him look bad and get more people on my side.” They also do a lot of the physical fighting in front of their kids, and I just don’t think me getting in the middle of a fight like that when their kids are home would be a good idea. I don’t get why she won’t call the cops. She has said as her “best friend” it shouldn’t matter what happened before that I should be there for her every time. I used to think I could be this kind of friend but it began to get really hard to go over there to help her, when she goes back every time and they repeat the process. She called me a butt face for not being more loyal and supporting her when she tries to leave. AITBF for not going to save my best friend from her DV situations every time it happens?