Some context. I (17f) was always close with my older brother (19m), we were raised as twins. But even though we hung out a lot, he was still mean to me, I’d say borderline abusive. Mainly verbally(ie. “You’re stupid, I hate you, I wish you would die. No one here loves you”) But there were times when he would punch me or kick me, even beat me with his plastic lightsabers(the heavy-duty ones). Despite him starting the majority of these conflicts I was ALWAYS the first to apologize, and he would almost never apologize, if he did it was the most insincere apology you can imagine. I learned to keep my distance from him and not engage in any arguments, but he still tries to spark things seeing as we have very different views(political, sexuality, etc.). The most recent issue was over room boundaries, we have a mutual agreement not to go into each other's rooms. But he had something I NEEDED in his room, there was no one else home and I had a time crunch. So I went and grabbed it. It was right by the door, I did not linger, and I did not touch any of his stuff. But when he got home, he blew up at me, yelling that I was a hypocrite, throwing my stuff around, and going into my room. My mom tried to resolve it, I apologized, but he is still ignoring me and shooting me dirty looks. I made my girlfriend snickerdoodles which happen to be his favorite cookie and I set aside a plate for him, but he never touched them. My mom said I need to try and make amends with him, but at this point, I’m done. I don’t need someone so toxic in my life who hates my guts.

So would I be the butt face for not trying to fix our relationship?