Throw away because I am a coward.

I (34F) keep having the same fight with my partner (38m) and I cannot tell if I am being selfish.

Sorry for this being long, I'm new to Reddit and I want to make sure I paint a clear picture. I try really hard to be flexible with the things I do not like, like watching the Office a million times (sorry if you like it, I just don't, but I watch it for him and act pleasant, laugh at the odd joke, talk about characters, send him memes about it.

We differ on politics, but I will listen to his rants. This isn't his strong suit, and I was raised to follow politics so I'm generally more informed on a lot of these topics and he's often ranting because he took a Facebook post to heart. I try to make him feel heard and I don't correct him if some of his facts are shady because he says I'm being condescending when I do.

He likes guns, I do not, but I go to the range with him when he asks now. I used to put up a fight, but he said it really hurt him I'm not showing an interest in his interests. At the time I was working on learning another language, and I said if he tried to learn with me, I'd show more of an interest in guns if he tried. He agreed but never did. and now I'm stuck going to the range because I feel like I'm breaking my word and he is so happy when I go, but just being there raises my anxiety and I want to vomit the whole time.

I've been an HP fan my whole life (I've taken a step back since JK started acting like a death eater, but it helped me become the person I am today), he 'doesn't like things with magic' (despite loving Elder Scrolls, LOTR, School of Good and Evil, etc.). He's never seen the movies, and he doesn't read books for pleasure. He once said he would watch them so long as I don't get too excited and ruin it. He said he's watched them (only 1 time) because he was impressed with JK for overcoming some challenges (depression, single mom stuff like that). It hurt I wasn't the reason he'd watch it, but I was taking what I could get. That was over 2 years ago, no effort has been made.

A recent frustration, one of my stepdaughters (7) and I started watching a cartoon I used to watch as kid and I always felt very strongly about. He was bored on the couch, so I asked him to join us, and he said "Yeah, like I'd watch THAT", like he was disgusted with the thought. He’s always on his phone when we are watching stuff so I didn’t think much of inviting him, even if it was just to be near us. It really hurt my feelings, because I feel like I do many things I don't like for him, but I don't think he values me or my interests.

There's more, but you all have lives. He does have ADHD and struggles to pay attention to things he’s not into. I've tried to talk to him about my feelings over the years, but it usually turns into a fight and I end up feeling worse and nothing gets fixed.

AITBF? Am I overreacting? Am I expecting too much? I don't think he needs to do all of these things, but one or two would be nice.