To keep it short, I was supposed to make a special dinner for my partner Monday night. We had a miscommunication that resulted in him not being able to make it, so I started making dinner for an hour before realizing he wasn't going to make it. I was upset, we talked about it when we got home, he felt bad that he left me hanging and we spent the rest of the night doing what I wanted to do. I felt better, and moved forward with the thought I would make it tonight. We were in agreement it would be for tonight now.

This morning, his friend texts me asking in a slightly joking way if my partner could play video games with them tonight (asking with puss in boots meme). I felt immediately uncomfortable, since his friend obviously doesn't know the context. I texted my partner and we laugh, and I say "lol but when I wanna play video games nothing happens 🙃," and sincerely meant it as an ironic joke. (Some back story, all weekend I was inviting the same friends to play and they were all busy. Not a big deal at all, we all have lives.)

My partner is now super pissed at me, telling me all I'm doing is playing victim, and that he hates that the only way I communicate is being passive aggressive. I clarified that I meant it as a joke for the irony, not at all the passive aggressiveness (we got in a fight yesterday when I was passive aggressive about him bailing on me from the miscommunication). Now we're not talking, I don't even care about having a nice dinner anymore. He said midst fight that he wasn't planning on playing tonight, but I felt really bad being put in this position and now being the bad guy.

AITB for that comment ? At this point he's saying I'm playing victim for being upset about the whole thing and I just think he's looking at this very superficially and with no empathy.