I got yelled at for slipping up on my part of house chores which I admit is my bad but I think my mom might’ve done a lot considering the reaction.

Me (f18 birthday was 15 days ago)

For a little backstory, my mom is generally really loving or rather was for the pst decade but something switched since covid started, more angry outbursts and random fits and shit.

Now to the story. I asked my mom to pick something up for me and I went home and ended up passing out due to lack of sleep the prior night and when I woke up my mom called me downstairs. I was still sleep dazed when both my parents started grilling me about being lazy and not doing my part, which yet again I admit I messed up. But thats when the big shit started. My mom started ranting and raising her voice to screaming about how im a “spoiled fucking child”and how I’m not doing enough for her and how she’s sick of it and me and coming from someone who gets angry but never really screams this was a lot. I started kinda getting teary since it kept getting more and more personal and she just wouldn’t stop even when my other parent started giving her looks and telling her to chill a little (not explicitly but implied) So im trying to hold in tears and she eventually just screams that im fucked up and screams fuck you at me which her and my other parent have both previously said that those words would never be said in anger towards any member of the family. My other parents just kinda talking about what i can to improve in the house since im an adult but im kinda tuned out due to the yelling and insults. So eventually other parent stops and my mom comes into the room while im cleaning and trying not to let tears fall and she decides its a good idea to keep going and says shes tired and doesn’t want to deal with my shit and other related shit so by the time everything in the night is done im upstairs breaking down into my girlfriends arms.

Lately ive been avoiding them both and been at work and at my girls house to avoid them. Im doing my chores and shit while im not but still avoiding them. Im kind of scared to go home at this point but my moms saying things that are making me sound like an asshole, like i should come home for dinner since its rude to not eat it when she spent time on it and such (which i agree but im too hurt to face them)

Am i the asshole for how im reacting?