My daughter (2months) and I (18) have been living with my boyfriend (20) and his parents for about a month now since money is tight.

I spent the first few weeks with my parents because I wasn’t feeling quite comfortable at my boyfriend’s house due to the need to be “guest like” while recovering from childbirth and taking care of a newborn.

A month ago, my “MIL” decided to redo her other son’s room and turn it into a nursery. Now it’s important to know that about a year ago he went NC and moved away to live with his dad. She took it really hard.

When I came over to visit, she excitedly showed me the changes.

There was a “nursing” chair in the work den, a new changing table in the nursery, and a second bassinet by the guest bed. I thanked bf’s mom profusely and began to stay over more frequently- pretty much every day. After all there was so much more space! Why not be there?

Now about two days ago, she bought my daughter a mechanical baby swing. She also put it in the work/computer den.

I wasn’t exactly comfortable with having the baby swing being in the den away from me and in reach of the dogs (I trust the dogs, I just don’t want them licking her like they already have) so I moved it into the nursery where the bassinet was, and moved the bassinet to the open closet.

My boyfriend uses his closet as computer space, so to him and I, putting usable items in the closet wasn’t a big deal. It wasn’t like we were getting rid of it, plus, we already had a bassinet. This was bought with the knowledge we already had one.

Apparently it was a big deal to them.

When I came home the bassinet was moved back out and my boyfriend’s parents had questioned him.

They said “Why is our bassinet in the closet, and our swing in the room? And why does your girlfriend sleep in that room?”

They told him ultimately they needed “a little more consideration” from me.

Now I never asked for any of the stuff they bought me. I also buy my own groceries, and bought my own mini fridge to put in my boyfriend’s room so my groceries didn’t take up room in their fridge. I’ve been trying to be as “out of the way” as possible and it feels like his mom is projecting the loss of her son onto my daughter.

I’ve decided I’m moving back home and my boyfriend is not happy… but should I be more considerate? They’re giving me free stuff but it almost seems like they’re using it as a bargaining chip now. And how is it their stuff if they bought it for the baby? Am I wrong?