So I was as I sometimes do showing my grandmother a man uncloging a drain this drain had a lot of I'm guessing feces hair and other bodily things I try and show it to both my grandma and grandpa they brush it off well alright that sucks my grandpa brings up what it is and I tell him casually that I'm gonna get a plumber electrician and some pest control guy to look over my house and spray it down and fix anything before I move in (obviously bc I'd rather have a good functioning house and not have to deal with it later) my grandma and grandpa both say "stop disrespecting us we put a roof over ur head and love and care for u the least u can do is be grateful" I didn't say anything and just went to my room as I was walking back to my room I heard my grandma say this "she needs to learn to be grateful for the shit she has" I'm trans and they openly know my therapist has explained it to them I have and they have no lack of respect for my decision and tell me 'I'll always be there babygirl and won't be a real boy." "Ok well that's fine could u call me by my preferred name..?" "No.i can't ur Shay to me and that won't ever change u shouldn't be so ungrateful and want to change the name we so lovingly gave u! " "ok well that hurts but could u at least use my proper pronouns..?" "No ur not a real boy y would we call u smthn ur not..?! " "ok well that hurts ALOT I just want u to respect me and my decisions I am a living person yk" "well ur still a child! We don't have to respect u" (I'm 17 Almost 18 I'm clearly not a child) but yeah reddit AITA or was I being rude and not respecting them should I apologize or stay quiet also a lil heads up I am extremely grateful for what I have just not my family bc of how they treat me and I do respect my family members as much as they respect me