From the title I would say that’s an automatic yes but let me start from the beginning. I (18F) threw my coworker/best friend (26F) a pool party for her birthday at my parents house. We agreed that it should be intimate because my parents would be in attendance and I haven’t thrown a party previous to this one, so if I got rowdy I wouldn’t know what to do. Before the storm of shit that was about to occur, I could feel her testing my boundaries by trying to push the limit of people, trying to invite a coworker of ours that I knew was trouble, etc. I should have considered this an early warning sign. Told her to come at 11 to help set up and she’s nowhere to be seen. Whatever I’ll set up by myself. Come 11:30, she’s “running late:(“. She’s here by 12:00 which is fine but I wouldn’t have shown up late for someone doing me a favor but I’m not incredibly hurt by it and just wanted to have a good time. People pour in about 30 mins later and her boyfriend is feeding her shot after shot. Everything was great until 30 minutes into the party and she’s falling over. Not only is she plastered already but she’s complaining of severe chest pain. Im sure she’s not having a heart attack but it’s 105 degrees in Texas and she’s probably extremely dehydrated and going to collapse. I tried everything I could to get her inside and gave her water but she fought me off and asked for another shot. I’d get her to the door and hobble away from me and jump in the pool. Finally got her in a chair in the shade and my step mother and father come to check on her. Still wasted, she flashes my dad and starts caressing my step moms side and telling her she’s sexy and has a nice body. I’m fucking mortified. She gets in the pool after and I’m not worried about her health or safety anymore. I’m so embarrassed that I couldn’t be around her. Time goes by and I’m drunk too but I’m still keeping an eye on her. That’s about when she throws up in my pool! I was way too drunk to do absolutely anything about it. An hour and a half later and she’s sobered up and looks a lot better and I see her packing her things. We agreed beforehand that her and I would clean up after and not wait until the morning because there was seafood everywhere. I could see it in her face she knew it wasn’t right. I have a very high bullshit tolerance but this was ridiculous. I had to clean up for 3 hours by myself. I didn’t text her or check my phone until I saw a text that she left something in my room and a text to the work groupchat that she’d accept a fill for her belated birthday gift. I bit and asked her if the party I threw her without any of her help wasn’t enough and after some passive aggressive back and forth I told her to go throw up in someone else’s pool next time with a link to aa. I tried to talk to her the next day but she wasn’t open to it and told me not to speak to her. I don’t feel good about that but AITA? She’s telling people I should’ve talked to her privately and it was fucked up to make it a public matter but that’s typically how we are with each other in the work group. I agree I should’ve kept it private but I was too angry and didn’t think she was looking out for me or my well-being so I shouldn’t look out for hers. At work, she makes my drink tickets last and it took about 10 minutes for two martinis I don’t know what to do I just don’t want this to be as uncomfortable as it is. I’m embarrassed and angry. AITA