Hello, this has been a point of contention between my wife and I so I thought I would post it here. I (M45) have 3 siblings and 2 of them live out of state. My sister lives in Georgia and was trying to plan a trip to the beach in Southern California for a week (where we grew up) she asked my dad about using his timeshare points to book a room for a week. My dad thought it would be fun to get 5 suites 1 for him and my mom and 1 each for myself and my siblings families and he would cover it all. He asked me about it casually over a year in advance saying that he didn’t even know if he could get 5 suites for the same week and if he could would we be interested. I said of course we would be interested in a free vacation at the beach with all of my siblings families and my parents. It wasn’t a sure thing so I didn’t think much of it. Here is my mistake- I neglected to mention it to my wife and about a month later at a family gathering my dad told us that he was able to get the suites and that he was excited for all of us to have a vacation together. My wife was pretty upset with me that I hadn’t mentioned it to her and she felt blindsided by the conversation with my parents about it. I apologized and talked to her about it extensively. We also have the ability to back out and cancel our room up to a month before the vacation. My wife was upset that my parents are forcing this vacation on us and dictating where we stay. She is upset that she feels that our family (of 6) is an afterthought and that we are just tagging along on my sisters family (of 6) vacation. I do not have a problem with the offer especially since we can back out. My brothers don’t have any issues with the offer either and both will be there with their wives and kids. My wife asked me why my parents didn’t offer us a week vacation of our choosing instead of only offering the vacation with my side of the family. I told her we should just be happy with the vacation that they offered. Over the years they have booked several small vacations for us when we asked about using their timeshare and we have paid any related costs or fees each time. My wife is a server who works about 4 nights a week and doesn’t know if she will be able to get the week off. I told her she could come back home for work a couple of days if she wants to (the vacation is about an hour away from our home) and I will stay with our 4 kids ages 12, 8, 6 &4. She was really upset with me for even mentioning that and says if we all can’t go then none of us should go. That I am being selfish because I want to go on a family vacation with my side of the family when she doesn’t know if she can go. AITA?