Me and my girlfriend have both been on alternate shift or woulding nights the last 5 days and we were supposed to have today and tomorrow off together. She has now agreed to do a night shift tonight from 8-8.

I planned to cook her a romantic meal tomorrow and she suggested that we watch a movie today. We also have plans to go to my mums on Monday for my cousins birthday, just a small party that my girlfriend was planning on making some cakes for.

She went upstairs to have a nap and shortly after rang me and asked if I would be OK with her going to work tonight and her having Sunday off. I am working 4pm-12am on Sunday. I told her that I would prefer we stick to our original plans as we wouldn't be able to spend anytime together today and she would be tired and irritable tomorrow as she hasn't been to sleep yet today. She said she would sleep at work so she wouldn't be tired tomorrow, but we haven't slept today to make the most of our time off and she sleep on the sofa at work which isn't good quality sleep. She also said it was better for her on Monday to be able to bake for the party.

Well this devolved into an argument and she told me I was being selfish and wasn't considering her as she would need to get up early on Monday to bake. She normally gets up at 2pm when she is on nights and the party isn't till 5 or 6, and her being on nights wasnt a problem earlier.

I feel snubbed off and hurt that she would call me selfish when I was just trying to make sure we could spend some quality time together. Our relationship has been less intimate recently and I think we are both feeling it.

I was just trying to rekindle the relationship and now I feel I've med things worse