I (F31) agreed to allow my sister Melanie (F21) and her 2 year old son Jacob to move in with me temporarily when her boyfriend kicked her out. I didn’t want to do this, but I allowed myself to be talked into it by our mother. I was very clear about my rules and expectations. I did not want her to pay any rent or utilities – I wanted her to save up for her own place instead. I was clear that this was temporary. I said she could have 4 months. I admit that from the moment she moved in I was counting down the days until she moved out. My sister and I don’t have the best relationship – we are very different people. I also have no desire to live with a small child. I love my nephew – but I want to love him in small doses. I was also very clear that I was not a babysitter for Jacob. I own my own business and, like the rest of my employees, I work from home. My office is the basement I was clear that neither she nor Jacob were to be allowed on that floor while I was working because I do not want any distractions.

Mel does work and she has a babysitter for Jacob, but the sitter is less than reliable. Mel’s best friend was her back up sitter – but she has since gotten a job and is no longer available. I told Mel at the time she needed to find another backup and that I wasn’t it. She said that she would. Well, she didn’t. Two weeks her sitter called and said she wasn’t available – and Mel told me that she needed me to watch Jacob. I said no as I was working. We argued. Mel ended up leaving Jacob with me and going to work – leaving me no choice but to watch him. I had to postpone several meetings because of this. I told her to never do it again but she argued she had no choice as she would be fired for calling in (they have an attendance policies and she has called in enough to be at that point). I told her she needed to find a solution but I wasn’t it. I also told her if she did it again that she would need to leave.

Last week it happened again. Despite me telling her that I had several important calls – she went to work leaving me with Jacob. This time I decided to not just put up with it. I drove to her company with Jacob. I asked the receptionist to ask Mel to come down and when she did I told Jacob to go to his mom and I left. Less than an hour later she is back at the house (in the basement while I am working) yelling at me that I had gotten her fired. I told her she had gotten herself fired – all I did was refuse to be her babysitter. We got in a huge argument and I told her to get out. She stormed out.

Now Mel, my mom and half the family is on my ass for what I did to “my poor sister” and how I need to let her back in the house. I’ve told her she can come get the rest of her stuff (she came and got some of it the day after she left – yelling at me for what a horrible person I am the entire time). I don’t think I did anything wrong but enough people are yelling at me I am coming her to check . AITA?