AITA

I (34M) currently live with my ex, (30F), I've stopped doing things for her that I regularly did with no complaint, because the relationship has failed. Before you vote, lots of back story: We've known each other for roughly five years, been together twice now, and had lots of personal, and interpersonal issues, my chief complaint, as I'm sure is hers as well, is feeling like I'm listened to, but not truly heard, recently I told her I was no longer going to provide food, water, or litter box cleaning for the cats we adopted, that I feel I have no real responsibility to. I don't feel welcome in the room she now occupies. I moved myself out of that room, rather than fight with her for control or ownership of the bed, and I made a few changes I thought were reasonable. To avoid burying a lead, she deals with arthritis, nerve pain, depression, anxiety, and a host of other undiagnosed potential health issues.

Problem 1) I told her I was no longer going to be held responsible for her laundry, that I wanted her to put away a blow dryer that's had it's cord stretched across the back of the bathroom sink for the last two years, and I wanted her to remove a couple things from the room I'm now living in so I have room for a proper bed. It's been two months since I asked for the room to be cleaned out, and I barely have room for a sleeping pad and sleeping bag. Problem 2 I want to be able to organize my stuff the way I want it in my home, but have been told essentially I can't because the afforementioned cats will get into, destroy, or eat things, and I have to accommodate them. Which I do understand to be the decent thing to do. But the fact I don't get to organize, display, and enjoy my few possessions because... Cats... Is a little irksome, and adds to the feeling of being listened to and not heard.

resolutions: I can move the items that are in my way out of the room I'm staying in, but I'm going to be yelled at because she doesn't have room to store these things. I could rearrange my things the way I want them in the house, and tell her to keep the cats confined to her room, which is where they've been happily living since they were adopted, and essentially live my life as I would were she not living here.

Time to pass judgement, as far as the actions I've taken, AITA, and as far as what I would like to accomplish, with the time I've given her to complete the simple act of removing her extra, large belongings (a treadmill, love seat, folding table and storage ottoman) from the room that is supposed to be mine, WIBTA for moving her stuff and claiming my space? Or for telling her to keep her cats where they are, and organizing my stuff how I want it? This is a tricky situation, and I honestly want to make the best of it that I can, without feeling like a doormat.